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My Porch

Two years ago, John built my sun porch. It is my retreat, my writing space, and where we hang-out. It is where I recouped from my heart attack last year; it was and still is my sanctuary.

Someone said, “The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation that you ever had.” How grateful I am for friends like this.

Porch sitting seems to be a lost art, but in my house it is the hub of our family.

We had decided to move to a younger house; there continues to be help that this house requires. As we talked about it and looked at houses, I realized that what I needed/wanted/desired was a porch.

This year our house is 99 years old, and it is listed on the Historic Register. We have lived here for thirty years. It has three closets now; only one was here when we bought it. Storage space continues to be an issue. In the beginning the attic was reached by crawling through a hole in the ceiling of the pantry, then a hole in a new closet, and now through pull-down stairs. (Evolving and ever-changing describes our sojourn here.) The green carpet was removed to show of the hardwood floors. Windows, walls, wiring, and plumbing have all been replaced. A deck was added that then became a screened  porch. A leaky roof destroyed that space.

I grew up with a porch. It started as a screened porch and then became a sun porch. After a meal, friends were invited to the back porch. Birthdays were celebrated there, and it became the place for opening Christmas presents. My dad read the morning paper there. Our son learned to walk on that porch. There were even a few times when my brother came in after the door was locked and slept on the porch.

We haven’t moved, and the reason why is my porch. Friends enjoy the porch. It is cozy and peaceful. Carrying my coffee to it starts my day.

The South is full of porches of all sizes. My front porch is full of wicker furniture and flower pots that are viewed by the public, but my sun porch is where my family and friends gather.

I hope you have your own porch. If you don’t, you might want to consider this addition to your home.

Tracy Lawrence wrote this song, “If the World had a Front Porch,” and it speaks truth about porches.

“It was where my mama sat on that old swing with her crochet
It was where grandaddy taught me how to cuss and how to pray
It was where we made our own ice cream those sultry summer nights
Where the bulldog had her puppies and us brothers had our fights
There were many nights I’d sit right there and look out at the stars
To the sound of a distant whippoorwill or the hum of a passin’ car
It was where I first got up the nerve to steal me my first kiss
And it was where I learned to play guitar and pray I had the gift
If the world had a front porch like we did back then
We’d still have our problems but we’d all be friends
Treatin’ your neighbor like he’s your next of kin
Wouldn’t be gone with the wind
If the world had a front porch like we did back then.”

I bet you can guess where I am right now!

Trail Signs

Have you ever wondered how people make their way to where they wanted to go during the colonial period?

A term, “By Guess and By Golly,” came to mean inspired guesswork, an early form of navigation that relied upon experience, intuition, and faith.

Brigadier General Francis Marion as a young man, went to sea. As a sailor, he learned to use a compass and a sextant and the stars to navigate. Those skills served him well when moving from one battle to the next during the Revolutionary War.  His men often remarked at how precise his movements were in the murky swamps of South Carolina. He did not guess his way through.

Many Indians, hunters, and travelers used axe blazes on tree trunks as trail signs. There is a major highway in South Carolina that has the name Two Notch Road, because it was an old buffalo trail that Indians used where they carved two notches in the trees. (And yes, there were buffalo in South Carolina. They migrated from the salt licks in Tennessee to the coast.) Those cuts into the trees cleared a path for others.

In Dr. Thomas Walker’s Journal of Exploration [of Kentucky], 1750, he says, “I Blazed a way from our House to the River.” & “I blazed several trees in the fork and marked T. W. on a Sycamore Tree.”

(Can you imagine having to blaze a trail from our house to a water source?)

John J. Henry’s An accurate account of the hardships of that band of heroes who traversed the wilderness in the campaign against Quebec in 1775 reports, “A path tolerably distinct, which we made more so by blazing the trees.”

Some travelers marked both sides of trees so that the trail could be run both ways. Trees marked on one side indicated a blind trail, used a lot by prospectors who didn’t want anyone following them. Indians usually nicked off small specks of bark with their knives while trappers and settlers may have used hatchets or broad axes. In the universal language of the woods, these marks meant “This is your trail.”

Another trail sign was to reach into an overhanging limb and bend a branch into an “L” shape meaning, “This is the trail.” The twig broken off clean and laid on the ground across the line of march means, “Break from your straight course and go in the line of the butt end.” When a special warning is meant, the butt is pointed toward the one following the trail and raised in a forked twig. If the butt of the twig were raised and pointing to the left, it would mean “Look out, camp, or ourselves, or the enemy, or the game we have killed is out that way.”

But what did one do when finding themselves in a treeless areas such as grasslands or expanses of spartina, desert areas, or rocky regions? They used rocks, pebbles, sticks, and patches (tussocks) of grass.

Thousands of years ago, American Indians along the east coast established a system of paths and trails for hunting, trading and making war on other tribes. Most followed the migration paths of animals and along routes and fords across streams and rivers.

The Great Trading Path, or the Occaneechi Path, was one of many Indian trails in use when the English first explored the Carolina backcountry during the late seventeenth century.

By the early to mid 1700s, the Trading Path provided European-American explorers and colonists a well-traveled route for settlement and trade. They traveled by foot, horseback, and wagon from Pennsylvania, Maryland, and Virginia and from South Carolina and Georgia. The Trading Path became known as the Great Wagon Road because of this increased traffic. Following portions of the original path, the Great Wagon Road crossed Virginia into North Carolina. The route was not just one path, but many. One branch of the path led to Charlotte and another through the Waxhaws and on through Charleston, SC, and eventually to Augusta, Ga.

Blazing a trail has taken on a new meaning to me as I have looked at these early days, and I really am glad we have those GPS systems.

Robert Frost examines this in his poem, The Road Less Traveled.

“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”

 

Elizabeth Hutchinson Jackson – the Mother of President Andrew Jackson

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Brave Elizabeth is a biog­ra­phy of Eliz­a­beth Jack­son, the mother of Pres­i­dent Andrew Jack­son.

I believe that envi­ron­ment and hered­ity influ­ence a per­son, and it was fas­ci­nat­ing to me to research the mother of one of our Pres­i­dents. Here is a snip­pet of her life.

Andrew and Eliz­a­beth Jack­son were liv­ing in Boney­be­fore, Ire­land, in 1764. They were ten­ant farm­ers and not mak­ing enough money from their crops and sheep to make ends meet. Taxes con­tin­ued to go up, and the weather con­tin­ued to cast blights on their har­vests. The Scots-Irish cou­ple worked hard, but life under the British rule was a hard-scrabble exis­tence. Dis­re­spect and prej­u­dice for their Pres­by­ter­ian reli­gion was also challenging.

A new life in a new land cap­tured their thoughts.

In April 1765, Andrew and Eliz­a­beth Jack­son crossed the Atlantic Ocean to the colonies with their two chil­dren. Hugh was two, and Robert only a babe. The eight week voy­age from Larne, Ire­land, was uneventful.

They bought land close to Elizabeth’s fam­ily and erected a small one-room cabin. They planted crops and started over. Hap­pily for two years, the Jack­sons worked hard and strug­gled to eke out a liv­ing in this red clay, but in March 1767, while chop­ping wood on a cold, spring day, Andrew Jack­son had an acci­dent and died shortly there­after. Eliz­a­beth, nine months preg­nant with their third son, was a widow at thirty with all the respon­si­bil­i­ties of a sin­gle mother in eighteenth-century America.

Though small in stature, Eliz­a­beth was strong and resilient in spirit. She adapted to life’s changes and dis­ap­point­ments and put oth­ers’ needs before her­self. Work­ing hard and push­ing for­ward through chal­lenges was the model she set for her sons.

After Andrew’s death, her sis­ter and brother-in-law, Jane and James Craw­ford, asked Eliz­a­beth to move in with their fam­ily. Jane had been sick for sev­eral years and needed help with the house­keep­ing. Their eight chil­dren needed more super­vi­sion than she could give, so the Jack­sons joined the Craw­ford household.

Busy with the daily chores of plan­ning and prepar­ing meals for four­teen indi­vid­u­als in a fire­place, tend­ing to the needs of eleven chil­dren and her ail­ing sis­ter, mend­ing, spin­ning, man­ag­ing a gar­den, churn­ing, etc., Eliz­a­beth con­tin­ued to weave cloth for the com­mu­nity. She earned money from the neigh­bors by sell­ing the cloth and was known for the qual­ity and exper­tise of her work.

Eliz­a­beth wanted her sons to have a for­mal edu­ca­tion. All three boys attended the church and com­mu­nity schools, but Hugh and Robert had more apti­tude for out­door activ­i­ties, and they wanted to farm. Andy learned to read at an early age, and his mother thought he might become a min­is­ter. His per­son­al­ity was not for a scholar’s life though, and the Rev­o­lu­tion­ary War inter­rupted his education.

Elizabeth’s faith in God and His Prov­i­dence was a major ingre­di­ent in her char­ac­ter. She had a small Bible that she car­ried in her pocket, and she prayed often. She taught her sons the impor­tance of obe­di­ence to the Bible’s teach­ings and encour­aged them in their loy­alty to each other and the rest of their fam­ily. Eliz­a­beth urged deeds and words hon­or­ing God, fam­ily, and country.

The Wax­haws set­tle­ment was con­nected to Charleston via the Catawba Path, also known as the Cam­den Sal­is­bury Road, with many trav­el­ers. Mer­chants and Indian traders car­ried their wares to mar­kets. Farm­ers drove their cat­tle to sale. New set­tlers in the Con­estoga wag­ons or on foot were daily vis­i­tors. All of these trav­el­ers kept trade, cul­ture, and news flow­ing into the upcoun­try where the Jack­son fam­ily lived. Because of the prox­im­ity of the Craw­ford home, vis­i­tors kept them in the know with infor­ma­tion and intelligence.

On 20 June 1779, sixteen-year-old Hugh died after the Bat­tle of Stono Ferry near Charlestown. The two-hour bat­tle was not a win for the Patri­ots, but the mili­tia fought bravely. Hugh was not wounded but died of heat exhaustion.

Eliz­a­beth nursed the dying and wounded after the horrific Bat­tle of Wax­haws. She didn’t shy away from either the pain or wounds of the soldiers that were slaughtered by the British at this battle. Later, she hid with her fam­ily from the British, who stole and burned the patri­ots’ farms.

Robert and Andy were under the com­mand of the expe­ri­enced Major William Richard­son Davie. Because of his youth, only thir­teen, Andy served as a mes­sen­ger. Guer­rilla war­fare and destruc­tion was the aim of both sides, and enemy neigh­bors paid back old insults.

Then in the spring of 1781 both Robert and Andy were cap­tured by the British, along with oth­ers in the Wax­haws mili­tia. They were taken to the Cam­den Jail. Small­pox was in every cell, and before long both boys were afflicted. Eliz­a­beth Jack­son was deter­mined to res­cue her sons from this hell­hole. She auda­ciously went to see Lord Raw­don and asked for him to add her sons’ names to a pris­oner exchange that was in the works. He was not unhappy to release two sick prisoners.

Their mother nursed them for sev­eral weeks, but Robert was too weak and died. She never left Andy’s side until he could walk by himself.

Hor­rific tales about how the Patri­ots were being treated on the British prison ships in the har­bor of Charlestown began to cir­cu­late. Eliz­a­beth found out that sev­eral of her nephews were on those ships suf­fer­ing with cholera. Know­ing their chances to sur­vive were small with­out some kind of nurs­ing, Eliz­a­beth and a cou­ple of women from the Wax­haws com­mu­nity decided they needed to go help the young men. In the fall of 1781, three women left home on a mis­sion of mercy.

Elizabeth’s nephews sur­vived, but she did not. She caught cholera and was buried in an unmarked grave in Charleston.

Eliz­a­beth taught her sons the dif­fer­ence between right and wrong, and free­dom and oppres­sion; the impor­tance of help­ing fam­ily and friends; rev­er­ence for truth, jus­tice, and free­dom; and a deep patri­otic devo­tion to coun­try.

Eliz­a­beth Hutchin­son Jack­son was a Patriot, a South Car­olina Rev­o­lu­tion­ary War Hero­ine, and the mother of Pres­i­dent Andrew Jack­son. Her story is worth remembering.

*****

Back Story of “My Country ’tis of Thee”

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“My Country ‘Tis of Thee” was written by Samuel F. Smith in 1832 when he was 24. He was a student at Andover Theological Seminary in Andover, Massachusetts. The melody had traveled around Europe in several variations, including “God Save the King.” Even Beethoven and Haydn had used the music in some of their own compositions.

He wanted to create a national hymn for the United States. In about 30 minutes on a rainy day, he wrote the now classic anthem. The first three verses encourage national pride, while the last verse was specifically reserved as a petition to God for His continued favor and protection of the United States of America.

“My Country ‘Tis of Thee”
(The following are Samuel Smith’s original lyrics for “My Country ‘Tis of Thee” (“America’)

” My country, ’tis of thee,
Sweet land of liberty,
Of thee I sing;
Land where my fathers died,
Land of the pilgrims’ pride,
From every mountainside
Let freedom ring!

My native country, thee,
Land of the noble free,
Thy name I love;
I love thy rocks and rills,
Thy woods and templed hills;
My heart with rapture thrills,
Like that above.

Let music swell the breeze,
And ring from all the trees
Sweet freedom’s song;
Let mortal tongues awake;
Let all that breathe partake;
Let rocks their silence break,
The sound prolong.

Our fathers’ God to Thee,
Author of liberty,
To Thee we sing.
Long may our land be bright,
With freedom’s holy light,
Protect us by Thy might,
Great God our King.”

It was first performed on July 4, 1832 at the Park Street Church in Boston, Massachusetts. About 500 Sunday school children premiered the piece at a memorable Independence Day celebration.

Samuel F. Smith was a Baptist minister, author, and journalist. He was born in Boston, Massachusetts in 1801. He was later a student at Harvard and served as a translator for various foreign languages. He received his theological training at Andover Theological Seminary starting in 1830. He later married Mary White Smith and they had six children.

In addition to writing “My Country ‘Tis of Thee,” Smith wrote over 150 other hymns. These hymns were compiled into a Baptist hymnal, The Psalmist.

What a wonderful legacy he left in music that we still enjoy singing today.

Happy Fourth of July Newsletter

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Happy July 4, 2014!
Growing up, fried chicken and blackberry cobbler were the mainstays of our July 4th celebration. The chicken was finger-lickin’ good, and often there was homemade vanilla ice cream as a topping for the cobbler. Mother cooked the chicken in a large black skillet with Crisco, and there were always plenty of crunchies left in the pan for making gravy, if desired.
We went to pick the wild blackberries on Highway 29; they grew up the shoulder. I have no snake stories, but there were always scratches from the stickers. Filling the buckets took quite a while, because Critt and I tended to eat three or four, before one hit the bucket.
There were no laws to keep us from shooting off fireworks. Rockets, firecrackers, and sparklers were our favorites. The sparklers fascinated me, and I was amazed at the lighted stars. There were never enough of them, in my opinion, no matter how many were bought.
So minus the fireworks, I will serve fried chicken, probably bought from either Publix or KFC, on Friday. I bought the blackberries and will make the crust especially for our guests that need gluten-free dishes.
The ice cream is another story entirely; I will use Mother’s recipe that calls for Eagle Brand milk and whole milk. At least there is an electric churn, rather than the hand crank we used to use. We all put our time in turning the crank, so we earned our big scoops.
Since we haven’t made any ice cream since last year, I might just have dessert first!
There is something about the tastes, sounds, sights, and smells of yesterday that never leave us, and that is a blessing in my book.
This newsletter will be posted on my blog this month. In fact, I am thinking that I will include it as one of my blog posts. If you haven’t visited my web page, I believe you might enjoy some of the posts.
One of you readers has a chance to win a free signed copy of my latest book, Brave Elizabeth. It is the biography of Elizabeth Hutchinson Jackson, the mother of President Andrew Jackson. I will mail it to someone who makes a legitimate post about your remembrances of July 4.
Book Signing:
July 19-24 – National Sons of the American Revolution Convention at Hyatt in Greenville, SC

Advice from Poor Richard’s Almanac by Benjamin Franklin

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This 200+ year old advice appears to be relevant today. What do you think?

“Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.”

“What is serving God?
Tis doing good to man.”

“God helps those who help themselves.”

“The poor have little,
Beggars none;
The rich too much,
Enough not one.”

“After crosses and losses, men grow humbler and wiser.”

“If you would not be forgotten
As soon as you are dead and rotten,
Either write things worthy reading,
Or do things worth the writing”

“Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards. “(LOL)

“Work as if you were to live a hundred years,
Pray as if you were to die tomorrow.”

“One good Husband is worth two good Wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they’re valued.” (LOL again)

“Creditors have better memories than debtors.”

“Death takes no bribes.”

“A good example is the best sermon.”

“All would live long, but none would be old.”

“A long life may not be good enough, but a good life is long enough.”

“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one.”

“Beware of him who is slow to anger; he is angry for something, and will not be pleased for nothing.”

“Danger is sauce for prayers.”

“Bad commentators spoil the best of books.”
(for all you writers out there)

“Approve not of him who commends all you say.”

“Clean your finger, before you point at my spots.”

Writing About War – by author Jacqueline Winspear

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Writing About War

I’ve been in England recently to visit my mother, and while in London I naturally ambled into a few of my favorite bookstores—Hatchards and Waterstones along Piccadilly, Daunt Books on Marylebone High Street and John Sandoe Books just off the King’s Road. Needless to say, with two major war anniversaries this year—the 70th anniversary of the D-Day landings and the centennial of the outbreak of the Great War (WWI), the first devastating international war of modern times—the stores were full of books about war. I could have come home with my arms full. And it reminded me of the many times I’ve been asked, “Why do you write about war?”—especially by readers of my series featuring ex-WWI battlefield nurse, Maisie Dobbs, and those anticipating my new novel The Care and Management of Lies. That question has made me realize that, perhaps, it’s time to share a few thoughts on the subject.

According to Martin Parsons, Founder of The Research Center for Evacuee and War Child Studies at the University of Reading, England, in his book War Child, it takes three generations for an immediate experience of war to work its way through the family system.

I read his book when it was first published, and many years before had read Ben Wicks searing book about the 1.5 million children evacuated during WWII from Britain’s cities into the countryside, No Time To Wave Goodbye. I’d bought Wicks’ book for my mother, but she couldn’t read it—it brought back too many painful memories.

I knew a lot about war even by the time I was five years old, though I had never lived through a war. But I understood something of its aftermath.

As many of you know, my interest in WWI was kindled in childhood as I witnessed my grandfather’s suffering from wounds sustained at the Battle of the Somme in 1916, one of the most devastating battles of that terrible conflict. He had already seen action at Ploegsteert Wood and Ypres—names that echo from history books today—and he came home shell-shocked, gassed and with terrible leg wounds. He was a dear man, around whom we had to be quiet, and who was still removing shrapnel splinters from his legs when he died aged 77.

My father’s childhood in an otherwise happy family home was marked by his father’s ill health as a result of the war. The winters were hard on my grandfather, because his poor lungs could barely cope with the damp and smog of London’s streets, and when his breathing became most labored, the doctor was called and a special ambulance came to take him away to a sanatorium on the coast. The family would be plunged into economic distress, so visiting was out of the question. Then about a month later, he would come home and do his best to pick up the reins of his business again—my father and his brother having kept things going as best they could, working after school. Granddad would get the family on an even keel again—until the next time, and the next. And my father was raised in a quiet house, because my grandfather could not stand loud noises—they brought back unwanted memories of the fighting. Shell shock was often associated with sound and percussion injury, and my grandfather’s wounding was no exception.

 

My dad was a very talented runner in schooldays, a boy who was often deliberately handicapped by the teacher—and still he kept winning races. He had some big competitions in his sights, but the Air Raid Precautions men had him and other boys who were swift on their feet in their sights. At age 12, Dad became a “runner,” sprinting with messages from one depot to another through the Blitz. I wonder how he did it. When he turned 17, he received his military call-up papers, and was assigned to the Royal Engineers. This is a man who grew up in a quiet household and as a result hated loud noises—and he became an explosives expert due to his calm demeanor under pressure.

I think I get my distaste for loud noises from my dad—I don’t like going into stores with loud music and will walk out of a restaurant if I can’t hear myself think.

My mother’s mother was a munitions worker in WWI, and was partially blinded in an explosion at the Woolwich Arsenal in London.

But my grandmother loved reading and was determined that her disability would not stand in the way of her and a good book—she could polish off a book per day, and so can my mother. That love of books was passed down to her ten children and some thirty grandchildren. Perhaps it was the books that helped my mother and her siblings endure evacuation during WWII.

I know the stories about my mother’s experiences during that time—I’ve heard them from my aunts too. They are not to be shared here, but suffice it to say, children away from home, plunged into a different world with complete strangers, are open to abuse. Of course there were those who were treated well, but many weren’t—and the scars remain. When Ben Wicks wrote his book in the 1970’s, he embarked upon the project because he believed the stories of men and women like him should be heard—he was a well-known cartoonist-journalist in Canada, but as a child he had been one of those London evacuees. He placed an advertisement in a British newspaper and anticipated a few replies—instead, he was inundated. Thousands of letters were sent to him, with so many of those (then middle-aged) respondents opening their letters with “I haven’t ever been able to talk about this …”

None of the stories here are unique or unusual for someone of my generation—I’m a Baby Boomer, and that’s what many of our parents and grandparents endured. But school history lessons frustrated me; I wasn’t so much interested in dates and generals and the geopolitics of war—though it had its place in my learning—but I wanted to know what happened to ordinary people. The social history of war and its aftermath held my attention and touched my heart. From observing my family, and listening to stories at home, I knew intimately (as Lady Rowan says in the second Maisie Dobbs novel, Birds of a Feather), “That’s the trouble with war, it’s never over when it’s over, it lives on inside the living.”

It’s as true today, as it has been over centuries of conflict.

You can read the story of how I came to write The Care and Management of Lies here on the website, however, perhaps it makes more sense to you, now, why, when I first picked up a battered old copy of The Woman’s Book and saw it had been inscribed to a young woman on the occasion of her wedding in the summer of 1914, a month before war was declared, I immediately wondered what had happened to the young couple. Over the years that wondering became a story, and I tried to put into the novel—as I have with all my novels thus far—something of what I understood about war.

The Care and Management of Lies will be published on July 1st.

(I have bought my first book by Jacqueline Winspear after reading this blog post by her. She drew me into her writing by sharing her family’s stories. I agree with her desire to know about the ordinary people who were part of WW II, and I wonder if I could put my dad and uncle’s stories on paper. So far in my brief writing career, it does seem that what I wonder about finally finds itself on paper.)

 

Charleston – the Holy City

The word “sunballousa” is Greek for “placing together for comparison.” Pondering would be a good synonym.

I really like the sound of it, and it reminds me of something that is extraordinary. Since I am Southern both in birth and speech, I can make more than four syllables when pronouncing it. Believe it or not, this word makes me smile when I say it.

There are times when the dawn and my coffee move me to pondering. I think about yesterday, plan for the day, and wonder about tomorrow.

We are in Charleston, my birthplace for a couple of days, and already sunballousa has invaded my mind and heart.

The moss on the trees immediately reminds me that I am visiting a city that continues to delight and mesmerize me. I am always surprised by the Holy City. There are treasures in the gardens, and walking the old cobblestone streets is a conduit to an older time. I can’t, or maybe shouldn’t climb on the cannons on the battery like I used to, but I remember the excitement of doing it.

The churches, the flower ladies, the Ashley River, the Cooper River, the horse-drawn carriages, the walkers, the bicyclists, the narrow streets, the artists – the old and the new living side-by-side.

Maybe this poem says it best.

“Dusk”

by Dubose Heyward

“They tell me she is beautiful, my City,
That she is colorful and quaint, alone
Among the cities. But I, I who have known
Her tenderness, her courage, and her pity,
Have felt her forces mould me, mind and bone,
Life after life, up from her first beginning.
How can I think of her in wood and stone!
To others she has given of her beauty,
Her gardens, and her dim, old, faded ways,
Her laughter, and her happy, drifting hours,
Glad, spendthrift April, squandering her flowers,
The sharp, still wonder of her Autumn days;
Her chimes that shimmer from St. Michael‘s steeple
Across the deep maturity of June,
Like sunlight slanting over open water
Under a high, blue, listless afternoon.
But when the dusk is deep upon the harbor,
She finds _me_ where her rivers meet and speak,
And while the constellations ride the silence
High overhead, her cheek is on _my_ cheek.
I know her in the thrill behind the dark
When sleep brims all her silent thoroughfares.
She is the glamor in the quiet park
That kindles simple things like grass and trees.
Wistful and wanton as her sea-born airs,
Bringer of dim, rich, age-old memories.
Out on the gloom-deep water, when the nights
Are choked with fog, and perilous, and blind,
She is the faith that tends the calling lights.
Hers is the stifled voice of harbor bells
Muffled and broken by the mist and wind.
Hers are the eyes through which I look on life
And find it brave and splendid. And the stir
Of hidden music shaping all my songs,
And these my songs, my all, belong to her.”


So what is in the midst of your sunballousa today?

One thing I know it is time well-spent. Enjoy!

“If”by Rudyard Kipling

At the Chautaugua Festival last night at our Spartanburg Public Library, the actor playing Robert Smalls quoted a poem that I had to memorized at one time. Truly it is full of challenging thoughts and remembrances on how to live purposefully and without regrets.

There is something in me that responds to a poetic piece when I hear it or read it. Since this poem is still on my mind this morning, I thought I would share it with you.

“If”
By Rudyard Kipling
“If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”

Source: A Choice of Kipling’s Verse (1943)

Telling our Stories

The Importance of Story: Yours, Your Family’s, and Your World’s

“Story is what makes us human. Through our individual and family stories we can better understand and empathize with people we’ve never even met. Storytelling binds us together as a family, as a society, as humans.

Story is important because it’s a way for children to explore their fears, take risks, be the hero — or the villain — and find out what happens. Story teaches empathy. How does it feel to have autism, albinism, be a minority, be bullied for the religion you follow? Story can comfort us if we’re going through the same ordeal as the protagonist, or enlighten those of us who haven’t had those experiences but will likely deal with those who do. Story can teach a skill or teach us about ourselves or show us how to think in new ways, to see different cultures, and cultures within cultures. Story can teach us societal norms and traditions, or it can take us into a fantasy world that, though unreal, can be an allegorical window into our own world. Story can also make us laugh — at antics, at characters, at ourselves.

Even though I write for young readers, my goal is to tell a story for all ages, a story with heart and authenticity that makes it universal. Adults, after all, may be the librarians choosing the books, teachers assigning the books, or parents reading the books aloud. And adults, whatever age, have something in common — we were all children ourselves, children who loved stories. Who doesn’t enjoy being read to? Recorded books are not just for harried commuters. They can be savored in quiet moments. Stories soothe and inspire, and we can all use that.

Stories can be as simple as relating what happened to you twenty minutes ago or twenty years ago. It can be passing down a family legend that has been embellished over the years or a family secret that has been preserved intact. Hearing family stories is particularly fun if they’re about adults doing embarrassing things as children. I loved those stories about my own mother and my children plead to hear the ones about me. Why? Again, because it makes us human. “Please tell us about when you got locked in the school bathroom, or rode your bike into the pond, or went door to door selling stale candy telling people your family needed money!”

Your history, your family history is a part of who you are and makes you what you’ll become — even if you completely reject it. That, in itself, plays a role in forming who you decide to be.

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